I love stories. I love reading stories to my children. For most of my 18 year homeschooling career I’ve embraced reading quality children’s literature a loud almost every day. An author who is able to capture the human condition and create unique personalities within a story capture the mind and imagination of readers. This kind of author has to be attuned to the nuances of people’s emotions and the many facets of character to a degree most of us are not. Or I suppose the real gift is being able to put all that in words.
Everyone has a story of their own. My mother is a collector of stories. Upon meeting someone new she might ask “So, what’s your story?” No surprise she majored in journalism and married an English major. Mom is eighty and is practically housebound but she is still collecting stories. She loves to hear what those in her various circles are up to and she likes to report the latest news she’s heard from anyone anywhere to whoever will listen. Beware the good listener.
But truly don’t we learn a lot about ourselves when we engage with stories? Be it your best friends tragedy, or latest victory, or the novel you are reading, when we can relate with a story we feel connected to the human race. And according to the book Anatomy of the Soul, that I quoted from yesterday, engaging in our own stories helps us to understand our own intricacies in how we relate and form attachments with God and others.
Attachment is formed early on between parent and child and can lay the neural groundwork for all future relationships including our relationship with God.
If we suffer from insecure attachment, looking to God’s story in its fullness gives us the opportunity to move to a secure means of connecting with him and others.
But, he goes onto say, this is often clouded by our own history, so to engage with God’s story in scripture, we might need help.
…viewing the universe through the lenses of our insecure attachments we have a difficult time believing that God gives us absolute security as well. Oh, we at times “believe” it with our left brains. But the avoidant, ambivalent, or disorganized patterns in our childhood development tend to lead us to cloud, distort. or ignore God and respond to him in ways that leave us disconnected form the life of joy Jesus describes in the Gospels.
Those with insecure attachments often have difficulty sustaining healthy relationships later on and may not feel secure in their relationship with God but with awareness and help change can happen.
I’ll keep sharing what I’m learning but if you’ve been intrigued by what Dr. Thompson writes you can get the book yourself here.